There are many definitions of healing and many ways to do it, but what we don’t very often think about is its mental component. Healing is not just getting rid of a condition we don’t like. If we want to stop the essence of that condition from re-appearing, we must radically transform our view of it, which will transform our relationship with it.
What if, instead of looking at it as a hindrance and an unwelcome guest, we looked at it as a gift reminding us that there is something we need to do so far that we’ve not been doing? And that is, welcoming that condition as a messenger that brings us news of something we need to learn. Whether it’s having more patience, tolerance, or acceptance; whether it’s developing a new talent or ability, or taking some other direction in life. We need to do something different, but never push away, get rid of, or reject the messenger. He will always come back, looking different, but bearing the same message.
This condition is now a part of you whether you like it or not. It deserves to be treated in the same way, or even better than all the other parts of you that you love. They are like your children; if you had one that just grazed its knee and came to you crying, would you push it away and reject it, just because it has a problem? Of course not! You would take it in your arms and hug it; you’d say “I know it hurts, I know it’s painful, and I can’t do anything about that, but I will hold you tight and stay with you until it gets better! I love you!” Every part of you that hurts or is dysfunctional in any way deserves to be loved just as you would love that child.
And when you hear that voice inside that says: “I don’t like that! I can’t love that!” turn to that part of you and say: “You don’t have to like it, you can be as upset as you want! I understand! But you are me, and I don’t have to like the hurt or the pain to recognize there might be a spiritual benefit to this, and so I will keep loving the part of me that doesn’t like it because it’s there to be heard, loved and valued!”
You’re now also being honest and admitting your feelings; they all have a right to exist, and to express. You’re not pretending to like the situation, or judging yourself as un-spiritual because of your feelings about it. Being honest is a first step towards loving yourself just as you are, but you will not let your feelings run your life. You, the spiritual Self, are the director of how you think and what you do, while allowing all of your feelings to be there, and be telling you how they feel.
So true healing is recognizing that the condition is a teacher, loving and accepting it until the lesson is learned. This brings a positive vibration into you and the area of the condition; making all your cells entrain to the vibration of love that you are broadcasting. And if you’re really courageous, start sending gratitude and appreciation to that pain, or that situation – find reasons to be grateful, which in itself raises your vibration. Lower frequencies automatically transform when in the presence of a high vibration.
In addition, there is nothing wrong with seeking medical help or advice and doing what can be done to physically improve the condition; but your primary internal focus must remain in the positive vibrations of love, acceptance, gratitude, and appreciation.
Accepting and loving a condition doesn’t mean it will stay with you forever; so far, you have been rejecting it and trying to change it, and it’s still with you, right? Maybe it’s time to try something else, something unprecedented and radical, especially since it will not prevent you from doing all the other things you’ve been doing to heal – you are just changing your perceptions and mindset.
And if that condition is meant to improve or dissolve, it will; and if it is meant to stay with you longer, or forever, you will find that your resistance to it will diminish and your experience of it will become very different from what it used to be.
