So many of us wish we didn’t have all those painful, sad, or upsetting emotions coming up when we see something that we don’t like, or get told a story of despair and hopelessness. We tend to think I was okay before I saw that, or before they told me that, and I wish I hadn’t spoken to them! They always make me feel bad!
But feeling emotions is part of being human. We can’t get away from them. Spirit wanted to have experiences and incarnated in you, because that was the only way to have them, through a body! And if you stop feeling unwanted emotions, you would at the same time prevent yourself from feeling the good ones, the joy, the happiness, the bliss! Living a life without any emotions is not what you would really want, right?
Realize that emotions are created by thoughts, and those thoughts create certain chemicals that then flow through the body to show up as an emotion. Different kinds of thoughts release different chemicals, and when your thoughts revolve around greater possibilities and joyful events, the chemicals released make you feel happy.
When we revolve thoughts of frustration, anger or sadness, the chemicals released are very different, and we immediately start feeling depressed, angry or sad. So simply by changing our thoughts about a situation we can lift ourselves out of that anxious or depressed state.
But what we usually do, is try and suppress the negative emotion, reject it, and lock it out of sight. We don’t see it or feel it any more, and very often that habit has started in childhood, as a protection from emotions that the child didn’t have the ability to process yet, and so it got stored in the subconscious, and somewhere in the body, until such time as it could safely be dealt with.
That time comes in adulthood, and our challenges and triggers are a catalyst for those stored negative emotions to come to the surface to be looked at, loved, allowed, and integrated. Triggers are an opportunity for us to grow and evolve. It’s never someone else who has caused our feeling, or made us become angry or sad. Their action was a catalyst for what was already within us to come up to be healed.
Triggers are a great opportunity for us to heal our childhood wounds that are still festering, but we don’t consciously know about them. Then we blame others for being the cause of our discomfort, and repressing the emotion again. Instead of really looking at our outburst or reaction, seeing the pattern that continually plays out, tracing it back to the earliest time we have had that feeling, and having love and compassion for that part of us that was so deeply hurt when it was defenseless.
Now we can hold it with understanding and love. Once truly accepted and loved, the pattern just dissolves on its own; we will no longer be triggered by similar situations.
