What’s your focus, as you go about your daily activities? What are you thinking about when you sort the laundry, do the dishes, or drive? Are your thoughts on a pressing problem that just arose, or about something you wish was different, or not there?
If your habitual thoughts are on things you don’t like, don’t want to be or experience, you are projecting into your future that vibration of dissatisfaction or lack, which will necessarily keep manifesting. Notice that you are not helping to solve that problem by just revolving those thoughts.
Suppose you want to lose weight so you feel better, wear the clothes you like and have confidence you’re looking your best – but your thoughts are: this roll of fat around my midriff… I need to go on a diet, but then can’t eat what I like… I’ll be hungry all the time… how long will it take?! All very unproductive thoughts.
Why not focus first on what exactly must be done to lose weight? Write it out, to have something to refer to later. It could be phone for an appointment with a nutritionist; make a plan for a diet; exercise every day; cultivate a positive mindset; create some affirmations. Whatever it is, write out a plan, and then do it, and keep it up consistently, especially when you don’t want to, when it gets too hard, when it seems it’s not working.
And when you’re not actively engaged on some aspect of your weight-loss program, go about the rest of your day only thinking of the good things that are happening in your life, and around you. Once you really focus on what’s good, you start seeing more and more good things everywhere, and you no longer have the time to think about your unwanted pounds.
Decide your thoughts will be only joyful and happy, and on your weight only when it’s time to eat, or see your nutritionist, or exercise –and maybe not even then! You can exercise to tone up your muscles, to be stronger and more vital, and then you are projecting that into your future.
And the next time you stand on the scales, you’ll be surprised at how much less you weigh through not thinking about weight loss, doing what you committed to do including having happy thoughts, and moving forward in other areas of life without undue reference to what you thought was your problem.
Be always striving for a “towards” value, not an “away from” value. Working towards a wanted goal can always be kept up, to be slim, attractive, beautiful, vital, full of energy; while working to lose weight is subconsciously resisted – the concept of losing is negative, and so when we’ve lost the first 1 or 2 lbs, out of the 10 we wanted to lose, the subconscious says OK, you’ve lost weight, so your goal is achieved! And that’s where you start thinking it’s too hard, not worth it, I give up!
