Change is the only constant in our dynamic world, and the ability to navigate uncertainties gracefully is a skill worth cultivating. There are two ways, two opposing mindsets we can adopt for living our life: one of knowing, the other of not knowing. Culturally, we’ve been conditioned to always know; from school, to college, to success in our jobs and lives, we are taught it is best to always know things; not knowing can be painful at best, disastrous at worst.
In my own journey, I have found that often, the “I don`t know” attitude has been a powerful tool in gracefully facing life’s twists and turns. This is not about crass ignorance, but a softer approach to a person or a situation, not imposing what I think I know as an absolute truth for everyone to adhere to, but allowing that each person’s truth is good for them, just like mine is good for only me.
This softer, allowing mindset has led to profound transformations in dealing with my own challenges. The things that used to upset me, even cause distress at times, have now become opportunities for seeing things differently, opportunities for growth in my own character. Acknowledge that not everything can be predicted or controlled, so you never really know what will happen next!
And when things don’t turn out as I expect them to, instead of wasting time and energy on useless questions and feeling frustrated and angry, which usually leads to feeling victimized by life and other things going wrong soon after. If instead, I realize life is handing me an opportunity to bring into consciousness feelings that were stuck deep within me from many other unwanted and unresolved circumstances, that now have a chance to resolve if I can let them go consciously, by turning to gratitude: Thank you Life, for this situation that has made me aware of those aspects that I really don’t want to stay with me, so I release them into the purifying energy of the Violet Flame, which transmutes and transforms them into the Light they originally were, to be returned as Love to the Source of All That IS.
Instead of anger or blame at the less than conscious behavior of others, it enabled me to view the incident with compassion and understanding; accept the present moment as it is, without judgment, and without my own interpretation of it. Leading to being peaceful about it; and it’s surprising how even technological hiccups become more manageable when approached with a mental attitude of patience and allowance. I find that I then have easier access to what can be done about the situation; and sometimes, the situation resolves itself without me doing anything!
By relinquishing the need to know everything, the mind becomes free to focus on solutions rather than getting entangled in emotional reactions like frustration, which leaves no room for thinking of other possible avenues that could help. The “I don’t know” mindset becomes a gateway to swift problem-solving as the mind is not burdened by unnecessary stress. When you embrace an uncertainty, rather than reject it, it becomes your ally, making sure you get to see that every challenge carries the potential for personal evolution and resilience, and a more harmonious journey.
